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The Power of Intuition…The Mental Game

If you get a chance, pick up and read “Inside the Fighter’s Mind” by Sam Sheridan”. “Fighting is 50% mental” he says, and so is life.  Never discount the power in intuition, the value of epiphanies in the heat of battle.

Sheridan tells the story from 1949 of a horrific wildfire that killed 13 firefighters in Montana. 16 smoke jumpers were fighting  the fire on the side of a mountain. Suddenly the fire got in below them. Fire below you on the mountain side is death. If you light a match it will slowly burn down to your fingers. But if you turn the match upside down it crawls up to your fingers in seconds. Fire moves uphill at incredibly explosive speed. Men can sprint at 8-10 km hours when moving. But a fire moving up a hill moves at 35 km/hour. The steeper the hill the slower the men move, and faster the fire comes.

They tried to outrun it…but it was a race you can’t win.

Suddenly the foreman had a flash of insight. He lit his own fire and lay down in the midst of the burned patch. See, fire won’t burn where it’s already burned. He called for his men to join him but the sound and smoke kept them from hearing or seeing him. On that day, 13 of the 16 men died. That flash of insight to start a fire in the middle of a fire saved the foreman’s life. It was the first intentional burnout. Later, it became a standard procedure for fighting wildfires.

It was a flash of insight…in the midst of a moment…intuition…

Intuition is a hunch, it’s a creative idea, it’s a vision…it’s seeing something…listening to your gut feeling about something….don’t discount them entirely. Clarify them, activate them, move on them, but don’t ignore them. Okay?

You’re So Vain…

I love the old Carly Simon tune–“You’re So Vain”.  The title is epic and so are the lyrics. “You’re so vain, you probably think this song is about you…”  For years she refused to identify of whom she was thinking when she wrote the song.  But in 2010 she did.  Interestingly, Mick Jagger thought it… Continue Reading

First rule of speaking…

I was trained to be a speaker. The chosen vocation I entered into required delivering talks on a weekly basis. I was a clergyman –and each week people would show up to hear something valuable for their lives. I used to ask myself—is what I am about to say credible? is it interesting? is it… Continue Reading

Answers from outside the box…

I am a counsellor/life coach.  The two terms overlap.  Some people struggle and go to a counsellor to get help with their life.  Other people struggle and go to a life coach for help with their life.  Because I focus on solutions in my approach, the outcome is the same.  But given that I have… Continue Reading

Short term? Long term? Today?

Five year plans used to be in vogue.  Everybody had one.  It was considered essential to the planning process and marked the organizational health of a group or individual.  You had a “long term plan”.  Then they became out of vogue.   The biggest reason was because things change so rapidly in 5 years that it… Continue Reading

Here’s the Situation…

I’ve been scanning a number of “posted positions” of organizations looking for senior leadership.  Though each organization’s needs are different, there are are some commonalities in their desires.  Most use the word “leadership” .  Most use the word “communication” in their descriptions.  Some just link the two together and talk about leadership that communicates well. … Continue Reading

What Do You Need?

These are affirming words. They are constructive words. They communicate caring. When spoken by you they say a ton about you. When they are spoken to you they are words of compassion and support. Have you received them lately? Have you used them lately? My son in law works at the Home Depot. My daughter… Continue Reading